Sometimes relationships end like a derailed train. When that happens, initially, everything seems hopeless. Breakups happen because of what people do and what they don’t do. People create their problems and people create their solutions. Therefore, you must ask yourself whether what you did or did not do is unforgivable. If you hope that there is a possibility of redeeming yourself, of correcting the mistake, then here is some help in deciding if your hope could be real.

 

There are many cliches about second chances (never say never etc), but the fact is, this is often true. You would be surprised how many couples think they are over for good, but are back together stronger than ever, in a week, a month, a year or more. That’s because the emotions that lead to breakup are often much more volatile and momentary than the deep-seated feelings that a relationship is based on.

 

Unless something truly unforgivable has happened, that has completely transformed you in the eyes of your ex-girlfriend, so that, for her, the person she loved no longer exists, then there is always a possibility. Love is a strong and constant emotion: it survives all kinds of punishment because it is in the nature of love to endure. That is why you have to look beyond angry looks and hurtful words; They wouldn’t be used so forcefully if it weren’t for the force of betrayed love. It’s the bad times he wants to be erased, not you.

 

So allow yourself to be hopeful. But before continuing, take a minute to ask yourself if you really want to go back. Make sure it is this particular relationship that you want, rather than the comfort of any relationship; maybe even with the next person you meet.