Life’s daily challenges, financial pressures, our jobs, taking care of children, coping with aging parents, and the like can affect our sex drive. This, combined with a lack of sexual inventiveness, can leave us stuck in a sexual rut that can damage our desire. This can work in a vicious circle: low sexual frequency leads to decreased sexual desire, and depleted sexual desire weakens sexual desire.
How to get out of this situation to be able to have good sex again? Here are the 7 tips that will help you get your sexual libido back.
(1) Thinking about sex
If you hope to increase our interest in sex, we should take some time to flood our minds with sexual thoughts. This involves reliving those great sexual experiences you have with your spouse or thinking of new ways you can try to spice things up. You can also read some great articles or help books or watch some informative videos, which can educate you and let you know what it takes to improve your sex life. The point here is to stimulate your mind in a way that puts you in the mood.
(2) Increase your sex appeal through clothing
The way you dress can play a big role in storing those feel-good hormones, which in turn can influence how sexy you feel. The way you look can influence how you feel. A change of clothes, a new fragrance, a makeover, or a new hairstyle can help convey the feeling that you are sexy and desirable. Even if you’ve gotten used to living with your spouse, this shouldn’t stop you from injecting some elements of surprise into the relationship, including the way you look.
(3) Communication with partners
Sharing sexy words can be a great way for a sex-starved couple to reconnect and feel more inclined to romance. These words can be flowery, poetic, and romantic like an old love letter or they can be racy or graphic like a heated novel.
(4) Stay fit
Regular physical activity can increase feel-good endorphins and can also improve your body image, promote blood flow to your sexual organs, making you feel sexier and giving your libido a healthy boost. Additionally, Kegel exercises (performed to tighten the pelvic muscles) can work to enhance sexual sensations and help increase desire.
(5) Spending time together
Just you and your partner, separated from children and work, during which serious topics such as children and work are not discussed. You can plan a weekly date like going out to dinner or going for a walk; but not to the movies or other activities that may not be conducive to conversing with each other. If you can’t afford a babysitter, go out on the porch and have a glass of wine together after the kids go to bed. You can also find some interesting and exciting things to do together, like going on tour, signing up for dance or yoga classes.
(6) Allocate some time to do something you enjoy
You can take some time for yourself every day, even if it’s only 10-15 minutes a day. This can help reduce stress and give you more energy for your partner. The more connected to who you are, the less you lose yourself in the daily routine, which takes you away from your partner. The more sensual and connected you are with yourself, the more available you will be for your partner.
(7) just do it
If you haven’t had sex for a while, it’s likely that your sexual desire will gradually decrease. The best way to get over this is to have sex even when you’re not in the mood sometimes. If you try to wait for the mood to come, you will most likely never have sex again. Research has shown that the more sex we have, the more sex we want to have. The sexual connection promotes the secretion of the attachment hormone, oxytocin, which can increase libido.