Two people can be mutually attracted only if there was some relationship between them in some previous life. When you meet a person with whom you were related in a previous life, stored memories or Runanubhandhana awaken your emotions and you can start “feeling” for the person Every lasting relationship leads to certain deep impressions. Any act when done repeatedly can become a habit. Every habit leaves an impression. These impressions are the Samskaras, which prompt us to act again. But if we don’t have more debt (rune) with the other person, it just remains a fleeting thought, just an impulse.

Sometimes, even though the karmic debt is settled, the old Samskaras (impressions of past acts) it can generate an irresistible inner urge to get into a relationship. We eventually end up creating a new account, an additional karmic debt that is not recommended. But if there is an unpaid karmic debt, the result is a natural relationship. When the karmic accounts are settled, once there are no more debts, the relationship ends. But if Runanubhandhana is very strong, it results in a lasting relationship like marriage.

This is the cause of every relationship, how it is born and how it ends. But nothing is permanent. No karmic debt can be eternal. Eventually it has to end when the debt is paid off, when the account is balanced. In this impermanent world change is the law of life. Countless wombs we have traversed. We have been with countless mothers, fathers, spouses and children. It is difficult to interact with another being who has not been a parent, brother, sister, spouse, child, friend, or associate in some other lifetime. But when a karmic debt ends, the attachment may still be there. We still hold on. when ma (debt) it’s over the relationship has to end but anubandhana (bondage or attachment) it could still make us cling to the person. Like the fan that rotates for a while even after the power supply has been turned off, the accessory does not turn off for a while. Once the rune is finished, nothing can sustain the relationship. Therefore, any additional remains of attachment (anubandhana) they are bound to produce only suffering and misery.

In some cases, one of the two people involved leaves the relationship once the rune (debt) is discharged. But the other refuses to go ahead, due to attachment (anubandhana). The second person suffers tremendously because any other attachment leads only to misery and suffering. Sometimes there is bitterness also after the separation. This bitterness can sow the seeds for future karma! When karmic debts run out, when a couple has to break up, as far as possible, it should be done with minimal negative feelings. They should part amicably to avoid further seeds of new karma, which is easier said than done.

The karma that unites two people in marriage can also be of many kinds.

  1. Bitter enemies can be born as husband and wife, and always fight, criticize, deceive each other and make life miserable for each other.
  2. Two people who have created negative karma for each other return as husband and wife, and lead a life of suffering together, fighting each other.
  3. Two people who have created both positive and negative karma between them come back as husband and wife, and have a mixed life that causes happiness and unhappiness between them.
  4. Two people who have created positive karma for each other in previous lives return as husband and wife and lead relatively happy lives.
  5. Whoever has taken a lot in some life has to give in the present life. In such a case, one of them will always be giving (money, love, care, etc.) and the other receiving.
  6. Two souls who are spiritually evolving come as husband and wife, help each other in their evolution and benefit each other. This is the purpose of marriage.
  7. A couple who has been husband and wife can become husband and wife again, if their Runanubhandhana is very strong. If the Runanubhandhana is very strong and its destinies (live) they are so strongly interrelated that they both usually die almost at the same time. If one dies first, usually the other also dies within a few hours, days, or weeks. Souls are so strongly identified with each other that towards the end of a successful married life, they behave as one.
  8. Sometimes (hardly ever) a being or soul, or spirit or even a highly evolved avatar is born as two people to fulfill a mission. After the completion of the mission, they merge back into one. Although it is very rare, such a divine couple can be born sometimes. Such an elevated soul can take birth as two separate individuals like husband and wife, siblings, guru and disciple, etc.