How much time do you spend getting ready for a night out? Guessing, I’d say if you’re a woman you can probably spend 1 hour preening and preening and if you’re a man you can shower, shave and be out the door in 20 minutes (unless of course you’re a metro-sexual in which case it probably takes longer than a woman!).

Now let me ask you how much time you would spend (or have spent) writing a profile for an online dating site. Less than 5 minutes, possibly 10 minutes tops?

When you consider that you literally have minutes to impress someone and stand out from the crowd on the online dating scene, don’t you agree that more time and effort should be put into writing an online profile?

If you’re an online dater, I’m sure you’ll agree with me that when you’re dating online, you’ll first look at the profiles with photos, and secondly, you’ll look at the profiles where people have taken the time to write something about themselves. themselves. So if you don’t have a picture and/or a sketchy and uninformative profile, don’t be surprised if your inbox isn’t filled to the brim with messages!

I am going to share some tips with you to start writing an eye-catching profile. Once you’ve read them, take some time to think about what you’re going to write and take a few quick notes before you hit the keyboard.

  1. grab a friend

    If you don’t like writing about yourself or think you’re going to have writer’s block, it’s a good idea to enlist the help of a friend; the kind of friend who always tells you “I can’t understand why you’re still single, you’re a match”. Ask your friend what your star qualities are and he or she will tell you a million positive things about you that you never would have thought or dared to say about yourself.

  2. strike a pose

    The most effective way to get noticed online is to include a photo. Choose a clear photo shown in your best light and preferably with a smile, it makes for a much better display!

  3. Pick a funny username

    This is the name by which members of the dating site will know you. I advise you to use a name other than your real name to remain anonymous. Try and choose a name that is fun and reflects your personality, for example Sporty Sam or Disco Queen. Do not use a name that is sexually provocative or offensive.

  4. captivate your audience

    Make your profile really stand out so anyone reading it will think “Wow, I have to meet this person!” Online dating sites have made it easy for you to fill out your profile by providing dropdown menus for basic questions like your appearance, lifestyle, hobbies, but will also give you extra space to write something yourself. Use this space wisely to provide a more detailed description of your personality, your interests, and what you are looking for. The key is to be confident and speak positively about yourself without coming across as smug.

  5. Don’t leave an empty space

    If you think you’ve covered everything by answering the profile questions, don’t leave the extra space blank or write “ask me,” “I’ll tell you later,” or “I don’t know what to say.” Members will look at your profile and think that you’re not serious about dating or if you don’t bother to put a little effort into writing a profile, you’ll have the same approach in a relationship, effortlessly! Instead, expand on the information already provided, for example, if you have stated that you like to travel, talk about some of the places you have visited.

  6. Ask questions

    If there is a particular place that you visited and fell in love with, ask anyone who has been there to contact you so you can remember it together. Asking a question on your profile makes it easier for other members to answer.

  7. Be honest

    Do not relate for interests; they will discover you! For example, don’t say you love long walks in the country if you really like to dance the night away in nightclubs every weekend. You will attract the wrong person and waste both of your time. As with any other type of dating, it’s always best to be honest from the beginning, so answering all questions honestly and finding the perfect match will be much easier.

  8. show your fun side

    I think if you can make someone laugh or someone makes you laugh, you’re on your way to a good relationship. Show people that you have a sense of humor, for example, talk about a scene from one of your favorite sitcoms of all time and you may strike a chord with someone else who found the same thing just as funny as you did.

  9. dream a little

    Write about your dreams and ambitions. If your dream is to travel the world but you have not achieved it, there may be someone who would like to share this experience with you. If you have been lucky enough to fulfill your dreams, share your story with other members.

  10. Don’t mention the ex!

    Ok, maybe you just got out of a relationship and you feel sad and lonely, but don’t write about it. It will put a lot of people off and can appear desperate, which is not an attractive trait. Make online dating a fresh start for you and promise yourself not to dwell on past relationships.

  11. your expectations

    What are your expectations when joining an online dating site? Tell people the type of relationship you hope to find, but don’t say you’re looking for marriage if you’re really looking for a casual fling, and vice versa. Again, you will waste both of your time.

  12. Write a chapter, not a book.

    By this I mean, don’t tell your whole life story on your profile. I encourage you to provide as much information about yourself as possible, but use short bursts of information, broken up into paragraphs, rather than writing a long essay so that the reader is intrigued to find out more about you.

  13. Be save

    Finally, do not include any personal information in your profile, for example, your email address, home address, work address, or phone number. A reputable dating site will remove any personal information before it appears live on the site; this is to ensure that they provide you with a safe online dating environment.

Once you have completed your profile, read it or have a trusted friend read it and ask, would you respond to this person? If so, all systems work. If not, look at areas where you can improve until you’ve created that winning profile. It may take longer than 5-10 minutes, but the results that will show up in your inbox will be worth it!