Getting women’s phone numbers isn’t much of an accomplishment, but many men consider it very important, and men often compare each other’s success to women’s by the number of phone numbers they each got from each other. women.

First, I personally don’t think that getting a girl’s phone number provides much information about her interest in you. It doesn’t even mean you’re going on a date; in fact, it is very likely that she will not even answer your calls. It all depends on the interaction you had.

However, getting a girl’s number is still a step forward, and in fact, it’s the only conventional way to continue an interaction with a girl you’ve met randomly.

You see, no matter how fun and smart you’ve been with a girl, if you don’t get her phone number, chances are you won’t see her again.

Attraction takes time for women

I recently wrote a post on the topic of attraction, and the main idea is that women and men have different attraction mechanisms, that is, we are attracted to different things.

Have you noticed what makes women attract you? Is the face beautiful? The size of your breasts? Your neckline? his butt? Anyway, the idea is that men are primarily attracted to a woman. physical looks. This is how we are biologically designed.

But women are different. Of course, having a beautiful face can make a girl notice you, but all psychology studies, and also the experience of many men, show that women are mainly attracted to men. conduct.

What kind of behavior? Women are attracted to masculine traits and qualities in men. These are qualities such as strength, leadership, social skills and many others.

This article is not really about attraction, but what you need to understand here is that you can be attracted to a girl in seconds, simply because of her looks.

But women need much more time. A girl will rarely know that she wants to see you again after a few seconds. Women need time to feel if they are attracted to you or not.

Therefore, asking for a girl’s number too soon means that she will reject you. It’s as simple as that.

So give him enough time (at least 10 minutes) to get to know you first, before asking for his number.

The importance of showing interest

There is a common belief among men that in order to get a girl to want you, you must not show any interest in her.

Now, while it may be a good tactic not to immediately show interest when you approach a girl, it’s a bad idea to not show any interest at all.

Think about a woman’s point of view: a guy, who was quite funny and interesting, doesn’t seem to show any interest in her, yet he asks for her number. That could mean:

“He’s desperate and so he’ll date any girl, even if he doesn’t like her.”

“He just wants to have sex, because that’s probably the only thing he likes about me…”

So a girl would think that you are desperate or that you just want to have sex with her. Both options are not very good for you.

Instead, you should tell a girl that you like her and show interest in her. I know the reason you like her is probably the way she looks, but you better find something deeper in her. It may be something she did or said during the interaction.

You might say, “Wow, I can’t believe you play the piano. I love musically talented girls.”

Make it sound sincere and genuine. Women love receiving compliments, especially if it’s not about their looks.

Be specific: the number is just a bridge

My experience in picking up women has shown me that girls have a certain objection to giving their phone number to guys. There’s no real explanation for that, but because a lot of men awkwardly ask for her phone number, she developed an immediate “no” response to it.

What I have personally used with great success is not asking for your number directly. Instead, ask him to go on a date with you, or even better, “go out for some beer/wine.” Women tend to have fewer objections to these offers.

The model of such a conversation would sound like this:

You guys: “Wow, I love the fact that you’re a Green Peace volunteer. I love women who believe in strong values…By the way, what are you doing Tuesday night?”

Her: “Emmmm, nothing specific…why?

You guys: “Well, I have a plan: why don’t we go out and have a beer on Tuesday night?

Her: “OK great”.

That’s it. Now that you have a date, getting her number is a piece of cake. Just ask for his number and you will get it.