The 20th reason why you can’t find love is an important part of a relationship. However, is it enough for it to work? The 20th reason you can’t find love is because you think sex is all you need to make a relationship work.
Sex is definitely important. It is among the top 3 reasons for divorce. Many people, including men, do not feel sexually fulfilled in their relationships. Most people don’t know how to ask for what they want sexually. Is a delicate topic. How does a man tell a woman that she’s not that good? Or does he not know her body very well? The problem is that most people think she’s good at it. They just never talk to their partner to see if they are in fact sexually satisfied.
If I use myself, I can tell you that I really enjoy sex. I know. I know. Everyone says that. There are many times that I have had sex 10 times in one day. That kind of frequency doesn’t come for free. The woman needs to have a body that I find attractive and know how to maintain it. And I’ll take a handsome face to go with it. However, that is not enough for a relationship. A nice body and a pretty face can get my attention for a couple of weeks. After that, I’m not getting as much out of it as the woman thinks.
I need mental stability. How do you handle yourself when things don’t go your way? What happens when there is a misunderstanding between us? Misunderstandings happen often. It is not a big thing. Except, if you’re not mentally or emotionally stable, I’ll have to work hard to stabilize the situation. That’s more like a babysitting job.
Also, am I being intellectually stimulated? While I understand, some men may say that’s not important, intellect will be important to a woman’s decision-making process. It’s essential if I want to have serious conversations about anything.
I mention these things because all too often women will say that what they bring to the table is a good body. There is a video where a woman is asked what she brings to the table. She said that she is the table. Then she said she looks at all this, referring to her body. The implications are that she is sexually desirable. Without substance to back up that sexually attractive body, a woman can be a burden. I will assume that a man can be a burden to a quality woman if he is not mentally stable and lacks the intellect to make good decisions.
I can go on and on about the importance of other things that make a person more sexually attractive. The point is that sex alone can turn you into a disposable piece of ass. While that sounds cold, you only have yourself to blame if you set yourself up to be treated that way. There are many ways to develop yourself. Making sex the most valuable part of you is often a dead end. Even if you want to be a sex worker, your body has a lifespan. When it expires, your next choice will be cats. They don’t care what you lack as long as you feed them.
I’ll be back with the 21st reason why you can’t find love.